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How long have you been trying to save your marriage? And when do you plan to stop since it’s killing all your efforts?

I absolutely love marriage. Not just because I’m married, in fact I hated being married for a few years there. The secret sauce is to stop trying, instead surrender your marriage.

Honestly, I love marriage because I love God and He is the designer. In fact, all his work is to die for, just like your marriage.

It’s no secret, all you have to do is go look closely into one of those magnifying mirrors at the precision of your eyes or step outside on a summer’s night and gaze at the sunset full of perfectly blended rainbow of colors across the night sky. Or a tree on an cool fall day whose leaves are turning bright orange, yellow and fire red! And don’t forget the pitch nights sky camping away from the city where you’ll see a zillion times a million twinkling stars.



You can see he designs with precision, purpose, and beauty.

Marriage is no different. Only thing is, we are key elements. He design it, we learn and live it.

Marriage is like a dance. You can surrender your marriage to the music or stay ridged and stiff steadily trying with wasted efforts, looking like a fish outta water is better than a stick being tossed back and forth. LoL

Which do you wanna be. The graceful pair floating across the floor in sync, each yielding in surrender or the pair falling all over the floor bickering and fighting about whose gonna leader this thing and how it’s the other person’s fault?

You see. Trying is equivalent to spinning your wheels on a rainy day in that southern mud.

You can smash the pedal to the floor but you won’t be going anywhere.

Truth of the matter is, the more you try the more of a mess you’re gonna make. Mud-slinging every which-a-way, along with frustration and anger.

On the other hand, if you’ll learn to surrender  your life will change drastically. Surrender is one of the most essential aspects to a successful marriage.



It’s true, God never tells us to try he tells us to surrender. The best thing you will ever do is listen and surrender your marriage to God.

Trying makes an appearance in the form of God trying our faith. Hence, he trys our faith to see if we will surrender.

When it comes to marriage are you struggling to get through each day? Are you stiff and rigid, spinning your wheels in the mud trying to get things to change?

There was a time when I was so exhausted with trying I didn’t know what else to try. I tried reading books, I tried listening to music, or listening to teachings. One thing they all had in common was this idea that if I did a,b, and c then my husband would change.

God’s way is so far from that model it’s crazy. With that said, when you surrender your marriage you aren’t trying to change your husband or trying to do things each day in an attempt to make your spouse happy.

Instead you focus on your own relationship with the Lord and transformation happens.

It’s a process of renewing your mind like the Lord says in Romans. You should never allow your situation to change how you see the Bible. The Bible will change the way you see the world and certainly your marriage.

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REMEMBER why you got married.

Go back to the beginning and figure our why you got married to begin with. When you got married did you think well if it doesn’t work out I can always get a divorce.

Or were you in it to win it.

It’s so easy to drown in the day to day mundane and redundant aspects of life and fighting. At some point you need to stop and revisit what brought you to your spouse to begin with. What ever drew you to them, remember that.

This may the one time when the fact that the past can’t change is a wonderful blessing because they way they were. Who they were. That thing that gave you butterflies will always be real.

EVALUATE what is really going on and what you’re doing to fix it.

Do you want to save your marriage? Do you know what God thinks about divorce? Do you want a broken family or a life filled with reward and blessing? It may never be easy but is anything worth fighting for ever easy? What are you doing differently? What are you doing that’s the same? What can you change? What does Jesus say?

These are things you need to take into consideration. You can live your life raising children and fighting or living in silence but how does that help you be productive. What will your children learn from that? What kind of legacy does that leave behind? What do you want people to remember? That you stayed committed to doing as the Lord Wills or that you gave up. Get serious.

VALUE God’s design.

The Lord created marriage. And when he did he didn’t create a fairy tale wedding he created two individuals who would dance together through life. They learned together. If you think about it Adam and Eve were the first so, they had to learn and grow together. There was no option to go find someone else if it didn’t work out.

Moving forward and experiencing life together was the only option, along with the life mistakes and bad decisions. You don’t think there were some issues after they were kicked out of the garden? The whole blame game and such.

Give your marriage value because God does. After all, this isn’t about you. The Lord wants to see you succeed as a person, just so happens your marriage is by far the most sanctifying relationship you will ever be in. Embrace it and let God work through you!

INSIST on making it work.

Your marriage is only as strong as the two people in it. If you won’t listen to the Lord your strength is minimal. God says his strength is made perfect in our weakness. So essentially you’ve got two weak individuals trying to make the toughest relationship on earth  successful.

If your willing to quit you’ve already accepted death. Insist that your marriage will succeed. Insist on hope in the Lord. Keep pushing forward. Keep getting back up when you fall down. Keep praying and reaching up. Keep pursuing your spouse husband. Keep going because the more you insist that you’ll have a successful marriage the more you’ll believe it and do whatever it takes to make it happen.

VIRTUOUS way of life.

Live in such a way that the Lord is pleased. Marriage was design by way of roles and expectation from both husband and wife. These aren’t I expect you to buy me flowers type expectations. More like, I expect you to surrender, forgive, and have a good attitude type expectations.

Only a virtuous way of life will encompass all that the Lord’s commands. A virtuous woman can change the course of her marriage by living in God’s design and win the heart of her husband. Belief must be paired with action.

In case you’re wondering, Love is an action word to and you have to decide to love everyday if you stand any chance, take action.

EDIFY your husband.

The tongue is the strongest muscle in the whole body.

Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. James 3:5‭-‬6

You can change your life by bringing your whole body into submission. It may seem impossible. But truth is, true submission brings massive blessing. Edify your husband, he’ll not only take notice but your lives will be transformed.

If you are willing and ready to make a huge change in your marriage join us in the FREE REVIVE YOUR MARRIAGE 5-DAY CHALLENGE.

Right now is always the right time. If you’re waiting for the right time you may be waiting for quite some time. Where will you be in 5 days? Are you ready to find that joy again?

Your marriage deserves a chance and so many others need your testimony of victory. Jesus is in your side on your journey to a transformed marriage.

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Words are always more fun when you hold that vowel for an extra beat. Am I right? Anyhoo, thanks for stopping by. I'm committed to helping women crush the belief that being loved is possible for everyone but herself while learning to cultivate life with courage!!



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