WHY GROWING UP IN THE EIGHTIES WAS AWESOME
Do you remember what it was like growing up in the 80’s? With questionable freedom from parents that didn’t bat an eyelash at you being gone from sun up til sun down.
Picture a hot sunny day at the kid’s favorite park, heat blazing down from the sun. You’ve forgotten your sunglasses on the counter at home so you have your hand perched on your forehead to block the glare of the beams. Suddenly, you spot a child on the top tier of the play structure alone and your heart drops.
You do a quick scan around the playground, obviously, the parent must have their back turned at this very moment and that little angel has managed to pull one over on them and getaway.
Then you see the lady sitting calmly on the park bench watching with a smile. Yep, that’s his mom. She waves!
She’s the one who birthed that little doll and loves him with every grain in her body. Believe it or not she’s even a bit nervous about him being on the top tier. Nevertheless, she sits quietly watching her bright boy learn to overcome his fears and stretch past new limits.
EIGHTIES BABY TURNED PARENT
Hello, I’m that mamma. I’m super nostalgic, to the point where we still have a box-based landline with the classic curly cord that’s currently causing serious tangling issues. *insert running man dance here* All is going according to plan. 😜
We love it and our children won’t own cell phones until they receive their driver’s licenses at 16. My husband and I are total 80’s babies.
You know that sweet spot where we had all the analog nostalgia of old school mixed with a smooth transition (at the perfect age) into the technology of iPods, and smartphones. So good!
See life has changed a lot. The education system, politics, western culture, and religion have exploded over the past 20 years and one of the main things we’ve seen deteriorate is 80’s parenting styles. But is growing up in the 80’s and immulating that parenting a good option? Let’s look closer.
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WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF 80’s PARENTING
80’s parenting has great benefits when it comes to raising productive members of society. 80’s babies grew up with good morals and values useful with real-life skills.
* Hard-work matters. In the good old days, hard work was how goals were accomplished. No one did it for you and when you kept getting back up to push forward you got stronger. With every broken heart, you worked harder and the result was sheer joy in the fact that YOU EARNED IT!
* Obey your parents. In the 80’s no child I ever knew would smart back to their parents. That wasn’t a “thing”. If you thought it was a thing, you ended up with a painful slap across your face. Or, soap in your mouth. It fostered respect and honor for parents rather than the raging contempt and anger we see from young people towards their parents.
* Always respect your elders. young people got up when they saw elderly folks standing. Children had no issue sitting on the floor. They helped with yard-work and had good old-style wisdom from grandparents.
* Chivalry was important. This concept used to be priceless. It didn’t mean demeaning. It was a sign of honor and respect for women and others. Men carried the burden of being in the fields, providing, protecting, and being the head of the home. Now both men and women are needlessly drained by corporate America.
* Create, build, and learn from your mistakes. Engineers were still a thing. The idea to think outside the box was a thing. Creating was a thing. Not Simply creating content as is today’s focus but creating useful and valuable items that were built to last. My mom still has a freezer that’s been running strong for 30 years. Things aren’t built to last anymore.
* Own your actions and face your consequences. Take responsibility for your actions. You were expected to own up to what you did. Find the best lawyer to get you out of it. Not even
* Eat what’s served. Not only have allergies exploded to new heights kids basically demand personal chefs. I experienced a time in a class when a woman in the back of the room called out a woman in the front of the room for eating peanut butter with her apples. She said the spores were making her sick. That was next to unheard of. Everybody ate whatever was served. If you didn’t choose to eat what mom cooked, you went to bed hungry.
* Go outside and play. Gym memberships are skyrocketing. Why, when there are perfectly good outdoor activities that we can all participate in. Problem is, we use to be trained to go outside and play. Now we train kids and adults alike to stay in and binge television and couch time. The obesity and diabetes epidemics are through the roof. That isn’t all genetic when it’s just now exploding.
* If its broken fix it. I mentioned that forever lasting freezer my mom had. Things aren’t built to last anymore but they aren’t built to fix either. When the ports broke on our tv it cost more to fix it then it did to buy a whole new television. Similarly, people treat relationships in the same way. When they break, they toss em’ and go find a new one resulting in an abundance of broken homes and mainly fatherless children.
* Apologize. When you did something to someone, our parents made us go knock on the door or call and apologize. Whether it was to a friend or even a teacher. There was an expectation to do due diligence and make it right. Everyone feels so entitled these days apologies are a thing of the past. There were no social media keyboard warriors. Since that has become a massive way of life, no one apologizes for saying or doing wrong to people. Especially on the online platform, because know who’s on the other end anyway.
Life was slower. It had a lot to do with how parents raised us. The morals and values than drove our actions were dynamic and promoted kindness and courage.
WHAT ARE THE DOWNFALLS OF 80’s PARENTING
* Dirty and careless. I remember shortly after beginning to date a guy he chucked a bag loaded with garbage out the car window then on another occasion proceeded to pour his cereal milk in my mother’s driveway. I about fainted. Problem is, 80’s parenting didn’t include disciplined attention to trash control or recycling. It’s hard to believe, but walking after your dog with a poop bag drape over your hand and recycling baskets were not a thing back then. Tossing a bag of trash to the wind was normal. Stepping in 💩 was a part of life.
* Strange substance permissions. The cigarette ads and alcohol allowances were slacker than one would think. Buying substances was oddly simple.
Of course, cancer wasn’t a massive thing then either so inhaling smoke all day in the home, cars, or any indoor public space was normal. Smoking was a way of life. Even doctors smoked while seeing patients. Do you remember what Bingo halls use to look like? If you could even see through the thick wall of smoke. Ewww! Buying cartons of cigarettes at the age of 9 seems like a whopping lie in today’s world. But even so, life is more serious in general now. Think seat belts, helmets, and padded playgrounds. Oh, my! Society cushions the fall of most things so no one gets hurt. So, on one hand, at least babies can’t buy cancer sticks, on the other hand, he can’t ride a bike down the sidewalk without the fear of brain trauma either.
* Strict and ignorant. We’re looking at a catch and release here. Strict had its perks when it comes to parents demanding you get off your behind and do something with your life. In stark contrast to grown folks still living with their parents playing Candy Crush. But we didn’t know the possibilities of the future. We were limited to what we had. But again, making mud pies with good old dirt and water was far more exciting than sitting on the couch gaming out.
The ’80s were the final stage of the transition from the analog world to the digital world. 80’s babies didn’t grow up with technology but as adults have grown with it. At the same time, we remember the time of easy living when illuminated street lights were our evening alarm clocks. And, knocking on a friend’s door was the way we communicated. Unfortunately, with smart technology came many behaviors and illnesses we didn’t anticipate.
If I had to choose, I would go back and live a slower life in a world of trash. Rather than watch people beat each other up on the internet over opinions about whether the dress is black or cream any day of the week. I’m glad my mom waved to me from the park bench. It taught me to take the risk, get out there, do the work, and wave back. Because real-life kindness is contagious.
What is your favorite memory of growing up in the ’80s?